Letters of Recommendation

[VPF]

Is it unethical to ask for one if it isn't offered to you first?

Upon recieving applications, how important are they to the prospective employer? What key things do you look for?

[Kouign Aman]

I dunno from the restaurant business. In other areas, it is expected that a potential employer will ask for references, and it is recommended that the potential employee not proffer them until asked.

editted to add: having read the next post, I have new perspective on the original question. Asking a current employer to write a letter of rec depends entirely on your relationship with them. Good luck. Start by letting them know how much you appreciate all that they've provided you (opportunity, training, encouragement, whatever. Try to be specific and very very thankful).

[Marky Marc]

I've asked for several and it's always turned out well.

[jsmith]

Not sure about the kitchen world, but in the business world it is fine to ask.

A few points:

Ask when you give your notice as people will do it much faster when you see them everyday instead of when you are an ex employee, and your accomplishments will be fresh in their memory.

Proof read it and have your employer correct any errors. A reference letter with typos is less than useless, and most first drafts have them. Bosses won't (or shouldn't) be offended by this.

Don't go asking for one two years after quitting (many people do this).

[boneface]

If you have to ask whether or not you deserve one,... you don't.

That being said, if you kicked ass at your last job, you know it. If you are leaving on good terms, and your former boss didn't offer it, then ask. He may have forgotten in his haste to hire someone else. At that point, it is not considered rude to ask for a letter of recommendation....

Oh, and btw-

When I see a resume, application, and letter of recommendation come in at the same time, I look at all three. This may be more than I do for any other combination of the three. However, although it may get you a quicker interview, it doesn't make it any easier...

Edited September 21, 2007 by boneface (log)

[jackal10]

References can be wonderfully ambiguous:

"If you can get this person to work with you, you will be very lucky"

"I have no hesitation in wishing him evey success with his job application"