pride mountain winery has what you are looking for in a tasting experience (scenery, friendly, good wine, picnic areas, non touristy) yes bouchon is good try terra in st helena as an alternative or martini house stop by model bakery for a quick and inexpensive lunch (disclaimer: i work there) you can drop by at around midnight if you want to see the ovens have fun. the bay area is a wonderful place to experience.