42 minutes ago, SLB said:When I got it, about 3 or 4 years ago from my brother who didn't want it anymore, I resolved to reject its care with flourish, with the exception of basic cleaning, and barely occasional oiling. Part of the reason for this is my inner child's enduring sulk; the other part is, I really do want a very different table to anchor my dining.
You've talked to your therapist about all this, right?
By the way, I do have experience with people who take things from their brothers, and who may have some issues with their mothers. And brothers.