I am sorry. I must have misunderstood the thread topic. Apology accepted Maybelline. I was not trying to give offense either -- I was just stating facts as I knew them. My grandmother was a cook/maid for a blue collar middle class family family [not in the south] for many many years. So was several of my aunts. Affluence is indeed relative, since the families they worked for did not have much, but they had enough to pay my relatives a pittance salary. My grandmother often had those "late holiday meals", and was absent when her own children needed her. No, no matter how hard she tried, she could not even afford indoor plumbing until a grown child had it installed for her -- much less helping a child go to college. My grandmother raised a huge garden, canned and preserved, and kept a few chickens and a pig or two to keep food on the table for her children. Yes, they lived in town, not on a farm. She did not have a car or access to the money to pay for public transportation, so she walked about 3 miles to and from work. Grandma raised 13 children. Grandpa was no help, since he turned to alcohol when he could not get enough work to support his family. He died from alcoholism while there were still 7 children at home to support.