Bill, she didn't say anything about weight loss. The point is, you can't change the habits of other people, they have to seek advice themselves. It NEVER works when they aren't prepared to do it. It will build resentments and bad feelings of all sorts. They'll end up breaking up anyway. Either girlfriend wants to change her habits, or crinoidgirl has to let her be, eating as much cheese and mayo as she likes. That's all. I, for one, was not joking.