I've been cooking ever since teen years; I still have a desperately old, dogeared copy of a Betty Crocker paperback in my library. It was in my twenties that I first ran across a book by James Beard ("Delights and Prejudices", in a used-book store), and realized that cooking taken seriously, cooking considered as an art form, was another thing entirely. After that, I grabbed a copy of the 1975 edition of "Joy of Cooking" and acquired considerable trial-and-error technical practice. "Beard on Food", a collection of Beard's syndicated columns over the years, charmed the daylights out of me and got me using more and more fresh produce and herbs, and cooking from scratch. "Laurel's Kitchen" and the Tassajara cooking series made up a more detailed consideration of vegetarianism than I'd ever seen before (and I still occasionally use Laurel and Company's ratatouille recipe), but it left me with a raging allergy to doctrinaire vegans-on-a-mission-to-convert-me which persists to this day. Then Robertson et al. produced the "Laurel's Kitchen Bread Book", which was one of the most useful volumes I'd ever seen on bread baking, back then. The best part of all was the point at which I got my hands on the far more joyous Anna Thomas "Vegetarian Epicure" books and started playing with wine-and-food pairings, building on the basics my dad -- a bartender and wine steward -- had taught me before his death. M. F. K. Fisher is a constant delight. So is Laurie Colwin ("Home Cooking", just for a start). The Silver Palate volumes work well for me. They seem to me to be unified by instructions which insist, basically, on not screwing up the best and freshest ingredients available. Nowadays, my kitchen companions-by-proxy-through-their-books include both John Thorne (of "Simple Cooking" fame) and -- as far as you can GET from simple -- Charlie Trotter, whose recipes hold the same fascination for me as really tough crossword puzzles: problems to solve, on the way to some damn fine-tasting food. A side note, Cabrales: I found Trotter's "Gourmet Cooking for Dummies" to be a LOT of fun. I use one of the recipes for risotto on a regular basis (doubt CT would recognize his own work, though; I've morphed it into several other risotto recipes, depending on the season and the available produce, that work better for me), and refer to the list of ingredient sources occasionally...usually falling out laughing at what they want me to pay. On top of all of that I go to restaurants as often as I can, and steal any ideas on the plates that I like and can afford. Does this help at all?