Bringing something to a place that already provides what you want to bring in is what pisses me off about the whole thing. Chambar is very gracious, they will not say no to that request because they are such nice people. Maybe for my son's birthday we can go to a high profile restaurant, but is it alright if we bring in the appetizers from Red Robin, since that is his special birthday wish. Maybe we aren't big drinkers, but we want to bring in a Sauternes from the year Grandma was born for her birthday, is that too much trouble? I know , I know the wine argument is yet another thread. As a waiter I have been burned way more times than not by this custom of cake-bringing. Even the offer of a slice way too rare. Do we just let them eat cake? ...?... Be quick about it.