I spent most of my 41 years overweight. I got scared of dying young and not seeing my children(now 4 and 7) grow up so I lost 100 pounds. I frequent the weight watchers forums and I see the special occasion struggle constantly. People WANT to lose weight but they dont want to give up anything to do it. Weekends are so hard, this function or that function etc. There is always something that is going to come up. I'm not saying you should never just go out and eat whatever you want. You just can't do that all the time. If you read the forums there, half the posts are from people who are saying stop me from eating this donut or how many points is this food because I couldn't resist it. Imagine their suprise when whatever they ate used up most of their points for the day. On my birthday last year we went to an Italian restaurant. I indulged in pasta-not something I usually have since I have given up most "white" foods. I ate a lighter lunch knowing I would be having a heavier supper. Sadly, the sauce on the pasta was tasteless and not worth the points I spent on it. Holidays at my MIL's are not a struggle for me since she is not a very good cook-picture if you can a salad made of chopped up lettuce(iceburg), mayo and a can of peas. I hope it's not too stressful to even try to picture this. Dried out turkey, boiled potatoes and overcooked broccoli usually round out the meal. Oh, almost forgot the coleslaw with the pickled eggs sliced on top. When I decided to lose weight, I had to change my relationship with food. I no longer eat just because it's there. When we go out, I focus on the company and not the food. There are ways to eat healthy when you go out. It's all about choices. Eat food that you love-not just food because it's there. Sandra