Yesterday we went over to our brother and sister-in-law's for Thanksgiving dinner. BIL was making the turkey--I made the sides. If you count the roasted garlic treat I threw in for him, I made eight. I reckon you could call my offerings non-traditional, although I used common and seasonal ingredients, like turnips, collard greens, eggplant, cannellini beans (not all in one dish!). MIL brought a bunch of stuff she'd bought at the store. Of course, everyone fell on her grub and BIL's Ruffles with onion soup mix + sour cream dip as if it were their last meal, and I had to plead with them to just try some of mine. They are all coming over to my house for Christmas dinner. The other day I was thinking of offering a cheese course, as the local market has begun stocking a delicious Spanish Manchego, and it's good enough to inspire. Of course, they would probably not "get it", especially if the cheeses aren't cut into chunks and served in a plastic box from the Shop Rite. And what on earth would we be doing eating CHEESE after the main part of the meal? Aren't we just supposed to shove it into our maws while we wait for the turkey's skin to get soggy, as BIL has wrapped it so tightly in foil while it's resting, that it is now in a Turk(ey)ish Sauna! So now I have a dilemma. Do I cook the way I want to cook, and keep hoping they will eventually come around, or cook what they want and are used to, because I want to be polite and welcoming to my guests? Granted, none of the In Laws have ever cooked anything as bad as what some of you have been subjected to, but there have been a few things that were heading into that ballpark. And there are a lot of things better in life than a shrink-wrapped russet potato with a little exhaust vent that you "bake" in the microwave "In Only 8 Minutes!" Angela