Having worked with many orthodox Jews, I can confirm what Steve says. They might not say so to your face, but they hold in contempt someone who is not as "righteous" as they. On the other side, we have had a number of sporadic social contacts with highly religious (orthodox) Jews and never felt completely comfortable. We always felt like they were uncomfortable having us in their homes, so we never pursued a social relationship with them, nor they with us. There was clearly a large gulf that separated us. This is not unique to Jews, but that's what we are talking about here. Dietary restrictions are a pretty fundamental barrier to easy social realtionships, since so much of social contact revolves around food. Vivre-I agree with Steve. Thank you for that wonderfully lucid post.