Bruni replies that he's "as often as not impressed with the memory of servers who donít jot down notes. The order is frequently delivered correctly. . . And yet, yes, there are screw-ups clearly caused by a server not taking notes."
A reader writes to ask:
Is it considered poor manners to insist that a waiter write down an order instead of attempting to commit it to memory?
Too many times to count I have sat with my wife and ordered a meal while the waiter diligently listens, but jots down nothing. As he walks away we turn to each other and place bets on how many items will be incorrectly delivered or forgotten completely. While I am often impressed by the talented memory of certain wait staff, these errors happen far too predictably.
I wonder what others think about this? If my party is any larger than a two-top and/or I'm ordering anything more complicated than a burger, I don't really dig it when the waiter doesn't write anything down. And what's the point, anyway? Is this somehow easier for the waiter? Is it supposed to impress me so I'll leave a larger tip?