Not sure if this is what you are looking for, but.. When I go out for dinner at an upscale restaurant, I expect attentive, but not over attentive, service. I don't want my waiter hovering, checking out my every move. Please have some kind of amuse bouche to curb the appetite, while the chef is preparing my appetizer. Good quality, warm, fresh bread is always appreciated. Please list prices on your specials, or have the waiter mention them, if he is reciting them. It's not nice to be shocked when the bill is presented. Please check and replace my utensils, if they were taken away after the previous course. Please teach to serve from the right and clear from the left. I think it's been forgotten in too many places. Please don't take my plate away when I have just taken my last bite and haven't even put my fork down. Please do not make me feel like you are in a rush to turn over the table. I do like to linger, just a bit, ..not a lot, just a little. Please make sure the waiter refrains from saying "do you want change?" Just make the dining experience one to remember.